For many of us it is incredibly easy to feel anger, we get angry about the traffic, the weather, a missed call. We also get angry with people that surround us when they do not behave in a way we like and sometimes when they do!
People can say: «you know it is my right to get angry, this and that happened and she or he did so and so». It is true, you have the right to get angry. Nobody says no but have you ponder if getting angry serves you or another person in any way?. The answer is of course No. Getting angry serves no one, does not construct anything. It just drains vital energy that better focused could bring incredible joy to your life. On the opposite, being an angry person or having to deal with anger can destroy not just relationships but lives
It also compromises your future since getting angry today will just bring more anger in the future. It is what you seed. If I am an angry person today and continue getting angry about people and situations that inevitably show up in my life, what is the most probable outcome tomorrow when the next situation arrives?. Well, guess what! You will have to deal with your anger again. You wont turn suddenly into a cheerful person in the future by being angry in the present. It is as simple as that!
It is a pretty easy concept and we all can understand and relate to this. No one wants to be angry or be known as the angriest person in the room, nooo. So if we know that, why do we keep getting angry? Recently I heard a guy in a spiritual retreat I was invited to and he was discussing the fact that we get angry because we learnt to do that, Eureka! it is a learnt behaviour. We convinced ourselves it is normal to express our feelings in angry ways. It is normal to feel the anger overtaking us so we repeat the pattern of anger
We get angry by repetition
What would happen to us and our surroundings if we change this pattern?. What if next time when the emotion of anger arrives, instead of your usual reaction you try to stay cool. I invite you to experience with new behaviours, to stay centred and to repeat and repeat this new way of acting that serves you better. You tell to yourself when the next annoying situation arrives: «I will stay cool»,» I will breathe before reacting with anger as I have always done» (a learnt behaviour) and instead «I will be patient and keep calm».
What do you think will happen?. The answer is pretty straightforward isn it? If you try to stay cool by practicing staying cool, most probably with time you will learn to be cool!, even in the presence of events and persons that used to bring anger to your life. Soon you will see the non sense of getting angry, you will even laugh and enjoy yourself in annoying situations. Trust me that will happen!
Besides, cooler people are sexier
Photography:Claudio Giambusso
